just happy birds .4 E V E R
If you’ve ever travelled in, or around Iran, then you’ve experienced or heard the rumours about the people. Countless travellers rave about their hospitality and their generous, genuine nature. But are the Iranians really as nice as people say? We spent 31 days here and we’ve definitely formed our own opinion.
“Everywhere has friendly people, but wait til you go to Iran!”
- Canadian traveller and friend
From the moment we entered Iran, a few things were clear. The Iranians are very curious about foreigners. Almost immediately after crossing the border from Turkmenistan, we were greeted warmly by local people on the street yelling: “Welcome to Iran!”. People in Iran have three main questions that they want to ask visitors right away, and they usually go in this order:
1. Where are you from?
2. What is your religion?
3. What do you think about Iran?
If the conversation carries on, Iranians will be genuinely interested in your family, your education, your beliefs and your stance on Iranian politics, customs and ceremonies. People who approach you on the street in Iran are very rarely hoping for business and almost always sincerely interested in you and your perspective on their country.
“You don’t even need to book a hotel in Iran, just stand on the street with a perplexed look on your face and a local family will invite you into their home.”
- Danish Traveller We Met In Uzbekistan
While I wouldn’t rely on this completely, it is probably true in Iran. The minute you pull out a map, someone is there to help you. Often if you look thirsty, someone will invite you in for tea and it only takes about 3 minutes of honest conversation before your new Iranian friend will offer up their home, their table, and their life in hopes of making you feel welcome. Granting hospitality to foreigners is deeply ingrained in the Iranian culture and they feel very embarrassed about how they are portrayed in the media.
“Do you believe the news that says that Iranians are all terrorists and extremists?”
- Iranian man we met at Persepolis, Iran (met for 3 minutes)
Iranians are well aware of the media coverage they receive abroad and they are appalled by it. They know who they are and it is pure discrimination of press that causes westerners to gasp when you mention travel to Iran. Iranians are a proud people, who stand for what they believe in and have made great changes in government and human rights throughout their history. The current state is still a work in progress, and the locals often express their pride for their nation and in the same breath, disapprove of certain government policies.
What do people think?
People think of Iranians as Arabs. They’re not.
People think that bombs go off in Iran. They never do.
People think that Iranians are terrorists. You’d be hard pressed to find one outside of sketchy border areas.
People think that Iranians hate the West. They don’t. Some hate Americans and if you look at their history, you’ll see why.
“You’ll never get ripped off in Iran”
- Random Traveller
Here is where you have to be careful entering Iran. It is true, there is less petty crime and bad business deals done here, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. Iranians are humans, living in a developing nation and the same precautions should be taken while travelling here as anywhere else in the world. While the regular local population is completely genuine, loving and trustworthy, Taxi drivers, tour guides and business owners are still out to make a buck.
“Always confirm your price 3 times in Iran or you may have discrepancies when it comes to payment time”
-Goats On The Road
If there is one flaw in the impeccable character and hospitality in Iran, it is the shortcomings in making an honest deal. This isn’t to say that everyone is going to try to get a little extra, but beware that people in businesses sometimes give you a price and then expect more at the end. Be sure that you make your price VERY clear and never give in and pay more than originally agreed upon.
Iranian Taxi Driver: “You are such a nice man, no need to pay”
Spanish Traveller: “Okay, thanks!”
This is a huge mistake in Iran. There is a rule here called Taroof which is a very complex system of saving face. Taroof dictates that gifts and services are offered even if the person offering can’t afford it. To avoid loosing face, one should deny an offer 3 times, which gives the person who’s offering ample time to back out. This helps to make his generosity seem truly genuine, even if he couldn’t afford it in the first place.
Sound confusing? It is!
While this social game is less in existence now than in the past, taxi drivers and bazaaris (shop-owners) will often still offer to give their services and products away for free. If a person accepts this offer without following the unspoken truce of Taroof, it is extremely bad form. Taroof is a landmine of social taboos for those who don’t understand it.
“Travellers had raved so much about the people that we set the bar too high and let our guard down”
- Our English Friends who had $200 stolen by a taxi driver
We have had amazing experiences with the people here and they TRULY are the most friendly people we’ve encountered in travel. We feel safe 100% of the time because 99.9% of Iranians are always looking out for us and trying to make sure that nothing but good things happen to us while we’re in Iran. We’ve been invited into numerous homes and we stayed with a local couple in Esfahan, but there are, like everywhere in the world, people who are desperate or corrupt and will try to steal from you. There are just a lot fewer here than in other places we visit.
“Iranians aren’t even religious. There’s booze in all of the shops. They party and drink and smoke pot”
- Norwegian traveller hell-bent on smashing our misconceptions of Iran. This is of course bullshit.
What this traveller was trying to tell us is that not everyone in Iran is a conservative Muslim, and this is absolutely true. We met people of all walks of life and all different religions. We met Bahá’í, Christians, Muslims, Zoroastrians and even non-religious people with very similar views to us. One thing is for certain, the dress outside is a government-forced facade in most cases and most people in Iran would dress entirely different if they were allowed.
When you enter an Iranian home in Iran, you’ll probably see the women wearing a tank top and shorts.
For some reason, travellers have taken it upon themselves to spread the word about the misconceptions of Iran. We ourselves, love to explain to people how safe Iran is and how amazing the people here are, because it’s true. But as travellers, and bloggers, we also feel the need to tell people both sides. Travellers we met before coming here were so determined to break other people ideas of Iran, that they often put them at a super human level. Positivity turned to exaggerations which turned into complete lies. In reality, the majority of the population are conservative muslims, booze is not easy to find for travellers (locals tend to know where to get it), there still are con-artists here, and locals won’t jump in front of a car to save your life.
“Are Iranians really as nice as people say?”